The ABC’s of Empowerment Self-Defense
Self-defense is more than just how hard you can hit. It is the full spectrum of tools that you can use to protect yourself every single day. We utilize skills from self-defense in our decision-making processes, such as when we communicate with people, when we drive or do activities, and more! Self-defense is really so expansive that we thought we would give you a better idea of what to expect when you take a self-defense class with IMPACT by breaking it down for you ABC-style.
The Letter B
“I set boundaries not to offend you but to respect myself.” (Unknown)
Boundaries teach people what it takes to be in your life. From strangers to friends and family, boundaries help keep you mentally and physically safe. That person who keeps getting too close to you in the line at the grocery store? Ask them to back up. That family member who keeps calling you by an old nickname that you don’t like? Ask them to call you by the name you want. Are you not in the headspace to help your friend with a problem? Let them know! Setting boundaries is expressing your wants and needs in any situation and is one of the most effective ways that we can honor and protect ourselves and others. So check out this four-step guide from our expert boundary setting instructors:
Self-assess
Try to figure out what feels right and what doesn’t in that moment. Boundaries are fluid and what feels right one day might not feel right the next day.
Breathe
This may seem like a no brainer, but the power of breathing can help center you to deliver a clearer message.
Match your body language to your words
Generally, keeping a neutral tone of voice and facial expressions allows you to present an air of calm and confidence and can get your message across better.
Be clear, concise, and direct
Ask yourself what you want to happen in a situation. Then, try to communicate your wants and needs as clearly and concisely as you can. This can help minimize miscommunication.
You are the best advocate for your boundaries. However it’s NEVER your fault if someone refuses to hear or accept your boundaries. It is important to recognize when this is happening, because this may tell you something deeper about the person with which you are engaging.